We are sure that you have seen the bumper
stickers, pins, billboards, and received mail on this very controversial issue. It has divided our nation and caused a great deal of hardship to many. The issue of
course is choice. Whether or not it is the woman's choice to have an
abortion or a baby.
At
one time the main issue was the life of the woman vs. the life of the baby. You may have noticed many people have moved away from this issue. We are
now asked to look at how having a baby will change the life of the women and the
potential father. We are told that having a baby can be expensive,
interfering, and difficult. The main issue is no longer the life of the
woman but how a baby will effect her lifestyle. It has become a choice
between the life of the baby or changing the lifestyle of the woman.
We would like to present to you an alternative
choice that would prevent the need for this awful choice. The choice of time. A woman has the right to choose
and that choice is at the time of whether or not to have sex.
Some leave at this point....Please read to the end.
Think about
it...This is the same choice
that a man has. Once a choice is made we should live by that choice. In other words, we are responsible for the choices that we
make. If you choose to drink and drive and then hurt someone, you can't blame it
on the alcohol. You made the choice and you are responsible.
Sex is a choice and the choice that should be in the
forefront of this issue. You can not truly erase that choice with an abortion. The choice of sex is more than whether to have and give pleasure. You as a
woman have chosen to allow a man to place within you part of himself. This
choice is not trivial and it is at this point that you have, in a sense, agreed to the possibility of
making a baby with him. This is an agreement, between the two of you, whether verbal
or not.
This agreement that you chose to make becomes binding if
you actually become pregnant. Your body, the one that people say you have the right
to, has started the process of birth. This baby is now counting on you and expecting
you to follow through with your choice to have him or her. Please make no mistake,
it is a baby with all the parts that a baby on the outside of you would have including
eyes, feet, hands, lungs, a beating heart, and feelings. Your choice was made and
now you should care for this baby or choose to give him or her up for adoption.
So we are NOT saying that women do not have a
choice. They certainly do and that choice is to have sex or not. Once that
choice is made then both the man and the woman must act responsibly and follow through
with the choice that they made. The choice of sex must be taken more seriously and
made with the understanding that a pregnancy is possible and life changing.
This in no way
minimizes your needs as a woman!
Your needs are very
important and must be considered. The baby's "will to live" is not
more important then your life but please understand that life is the issue
here not lifestyle.
If you are
pregnant, we encourage you to find out more information at:
Pregnancy
Centers Online
or call 800-848-LOVE
If you are not pregnant and feeling
pressure to make the choice to have sex, we urge you to think through this decision.
You may have come to this page looking for a reason to justify having sex. This may
be because you know that it is wrong to have sex outside of marriage. You know
that it is wrong because God has placed it on your heart that it is wrong. God would
love to give you the strength to do what is right. The pressure will be too strong
to hold out without God. Would you like to learn how to have the strength that only
a personal relationship with God can give you?
Then we invite you to
visit our Road to God Page.
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